Christianity encourages romance!
Absence of romance is the bedrock of divorce which has been rampant in Christian marriages today.
A marriage without romance would always get boring and will be filled with complaints. One must be vigilant and ready to get rid of boredom.
You love your wife very much and don’t want to loose her but you don’t know how else to be romantic.
Here are a few steps to keep being a romantic husband without having to engage in sex;
- PAMPER HER
Carry her to bed when she sleeps off like she is a 2 years old, back, thigh, buttock and neck massages when she’s tired and breakfast in bed on weekends is very paramount.
- BE PLAYFUL
You can’t be uptight and straight jacketed all the time, you have to let loose. Try sitting on her laps in private or laying your head on her laps, play with her hair, write poems or sing to her, tickle her, scare her and make sure to cuddle, kiss and hug her.
- BE HELPFUL
Duties are not feminine inclined only. Try to do the heavy lifting around like pounding the yam while she makes the soup, help with chores, try to teach her how to cook a meal you know but she doesn’t. Little things as helping her wear her shoes when she’s pregnant or tidying the kitchen goes a long way too.
- BE VULNERABLE
This doesn’t mean you are weak, it means you’re just as human as she is and that you let her take the lead too. Cry to her and tell her why you are worried, admit that you were wrong and apologize, let her take the lead in bed and ask her on best ways to please her,ask for her opinion on matters and listen to her advice. Two heads are better than one after all.
- BE LENIENT
Don’t be too hard on your wife. Forgive easily and apologize for ones you are guilty of. Don’t be petty of little things, never raise your voice at her or argue with her in public, learn things about her and discuss it with her. Strong communication builds a marriage.
- CLOSENESS WITH FAMILY
A woman finds joy in seeing her family bond and have fun time. Help your kids with their assignments, sit down with her and watch soap operas, pray with the family and read the Bible to them, never disagree with her when she corrects the kids instead discuss with her if you have a different opinion. Take the family out also from time to time on your budget.
- APPRECIATE HER
Appreciating her is not limited to her alone but also extended to her own family to thank them for raising her. Surprise her with gifts occasionally, write her love letters and slip them into her makeup kits or purse, have flowers or lunch delivered to her office with a lovely note, hang a picture of her in your office or on your desk, give her attention, appreciate her family and send them gifts, see her as a Favour from God and be thankful, thank her for taking care of your family. Also admire her body and be captivated by your wife’s body alone.
Lastly,
- TELL HER NICE THINGS
Just like the way you like accolades when you do well at a job in the office, so does your wife. Say you love her often and prove it too (Ephesians 5:25), tell her how beautiful and brilliant she is, when your kids exhibit good behaviors, tell them their mother is the source, whisper words like “you look stunning “ “ you are my queen “ into her ears, tell her thank you for choosing you even after her list of handsome suitors, call her or text her just to say I Love You.
If you wife says you are not romantic, it means you are lagging behind in some, most or all of these steps and you make amends immediately.
SHALOM!
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