BALANCE: Being in an optimal state of equilibrium.
Optimal; being the best possibility
IDEAL Perfect, flawless, having no defects
A group of well-adjusted personalities living together as one.
A family that contains adequate amounts of all the necessary nutrients required for healthy growth and activities.
MARRIAGE? A union between two people in which independent is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal.
All marriages are happy it is living together that brings trouble
Why? [ one of the goals of marriage is not to think alike, but to think together]
[Yes, there will be storm, but many marriages might survive their storm if the partners realize that sometimes, the better comes after the worse]
Because we often fall in love with a personality but must end up living with a character.
ATTRIBUTE OF A BALANCED FAMILY:
1. Where couples live as brothers and sisters. . . . or inseparable friends.
2. Where couples don’t compare their lives to others- [ don’t compare your life to others. There is no comparison between the sun and the moon. They shine when it is their time]
3. Where couple share things in commom even in relating with outsiders – [ avoid people who are close to people who dislike you. They are dangerous-
Couples keep no records of wrongs [A good relationship is not that you never get angry, upset or irritated with each-other …. It is how fast you resolve disagreements and bounce back to normal]
4. Where honor is reciprocal.
5. Where submission is biblically understood and practiced [Marrying a woman doesn’t mean she is your property
i] Treat her with respect
ii] Make her your queen
iii] Love her, honor her, and give her the reason to treat you the same – like a king. [You cannot hold your spouse like a pinch of salt and expect him/her to carry you like a bag of rice or a bag of Dangote cement]
Two good forgivers live
Psychologists have generally defined forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance towards a person or a group of persons who have harmed you, regardless of whether they actually deserve your forgiveness.
WHY IS IT SO IMPORTANT TO FORGIVE? – Forgiveness is for our own growth and happiness. When we hold on to hurt, pain, resentment and anger it harms us far more than it harms the offender.
It frees us to live in the present
It allows us to move on without anger or contempt or seeking revenge.
Where love, trust and Godly relationship are not dead.
Helloooo some Couples are just living like strangers in the Home, no more love or relationship let alone trust, they are already dead. So let couples bury their ego to enable them run a balanced family LOVE, RELATIONSHIP, and TRUST just don’t die a natural death, they are murdered by arrogance, pride and ignorance.
Some Couples are living fake and pretencious lives. The most dangerous creature on this earth is a fake friend. Love is not what you say, love is what you do, couples live as friends and nothing but friends.
Where three major ingredients of a balanced family are easily found – ATTENTION, AFFECTION AND APPRECIATION.
Where the husband is a real man who does not decorate the face of the wife with tears and hurts her emotionally. “Don’t be the reason someone kneels down and cry to God, some tears are dangerous.
Where honor and respect is reciprocal. The wife keeps her husband’s stomach full and his testicles empty.
Where positive mind is kept for ever and reversed thinking is never allowed. [ A negative mind will never give you a positive life]
Where couples are equally involved in the children upbringing.
Where third parties are vehemently resisted.
Finally where Love is not stupid. Stupid is : Knowing the truth, Seeing the Truth but still believing the Lies – [Love is not something you say/feel. It is something you do]
Let’s continue in the next episode…..
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